Assalamo Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu,

The importance of dealing with people justly

Insha Allah you are all in the best state of health and Imaan.  Just a small reminder to recite Allahuma Sallay Ala Muhammadin Abdika Wa Nabiyika Wa Rasoolikan Nabiyyil Ummiyi.  Reciting this darood and salaam upon Nabi SAW 80 times on Friday takes away 80 years of sin. Many people have asked for reference for this action.  And here it is...(This Hadith is considered is “Hasan” by Abu Abdillah Al-Nu’man- Al-Qawl al-Badee’, pg 382, Al Muassah al-Rayyan / Takhreej Al-Ihya with Ihya, vol 1, pg 247, Dar Al-Hadith)

Juwairiyah bint Al-Harith (May Allah be pleased with her) reported, the Mother of the Believers: The Prophet SAW (peace be upon him) came out from my apartment in the morning as I was busy in performing the dawn prayer. He came back in the forenoon and found me sitting there. The Prophet SAW (peace be upon him said, "Are you still in the same position as I left you." I replied in the affirmative. Thereupon the Prophet SAW said, "I recited four words three times after I had left you. If these are to be weighed against all you have recited since morning, these will be heavier. These are: Subhan-Allahi wa bihamdihi, `adada khalqihi, wa rida nafsihi, wa zinatah `arshihi, wa midada kalimatihi [Allah is free from imperfection and I begin with His praise, as many times as the number of His creatures, in accordance with His Good Pleasure, equal to the weight of His Throne and equal to the ink that may be used in recording the words (for His Praise)]."[Sahih Muslim].  Take two minutes to memorise the above and repeat it three times in the morning and in the evening.  And it really does take only two minutes.

 Many people look to do ‘Ibadaat (acts of worship) apart from the faraa’id (mandatory acts of worship) such as zikr (remembrance of Allah) and Quran Khatams. This is a clear sign of their concern for their hereafter, love for deen and their passion for attracting the mercy of Allah. Consider the following hadith:

Shaddad bin Aws, radiyallahu anhu, narrated that the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, said: "an intelligent person is the one who subjugates his soul, and works for what is after death. And the incapable is the one who follows his desires and merely hopes in Allah."

However, preparation for death requires much more than Nawafil (voluntary acts of worship). In fact, Ibadaat is just one branch of deen. Other important branches of deen must also be incorporated into one’s life in order to achieve complete success in this life and the hereafter such as mu’amalaat (good conduct in transactions),akhlaaqiyyaat (moral character) and husn-e-muasharat (beautiful social conduct). Consider the following hadith:

Abu Huraira. reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying:

Do you know who is poor? They (the Companions of the Holy Prophet) said: A poor man amongst us is one who has neither dirham with him nor wealth. He (the Holy Prophet) said: The poor of my Umma would be he who would come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers and fasts and Zakat but (he would find himself bankrupt on that day as he would have exhausted his funds of virtues) since he hurled abuses upon others, slandered others and unlawfully consumed the wealth of others and shed the blood of others and beat others, and his virtues would be credited to the account of one (who suffered at his hand). And if his good deeds fall short to clear the account, then his sins would be entered in (his account) and he would be thrown in the Hell-Fire.

This hadith outlines the importance of having good character and to deal with other people in a good way. It can clearly be understood that no matter how much worship one does and no matter how much good deeds one may have in his account, it will amount to nothing if he does not conduct himself appropriately with other people.

The Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, commanded us to have excellent social conduct:

 “Deal with people with excellent conduct” 

Scholars have explained this holistic approach as follows: 

“The Shariah consists of five branches or parts: Aqaa’id (belief ), A’maal (deeds), Muamalaat(dealings), Akhlaaq (morals), Husn-e-Muasharat (beautiful conduct)…

 …the above mentioned five departments are collectively known as the Shariat. It is essential for Muslims to adopt all five departments of Shariat. But, in the present age people have abbreviated the Shariat. Some have taken only Aqaa’id, believing that only the proclamation of La ilaaha il lallaahu suffices for immediate entry into jannat. Such persons, while they believe Salaat, Saum, etc., are Fardh, do not obtain the good fortune of practically executing these acts of worship. Others again, along with Aqaa’id observe Salaat, Saum, etc., as well. However, they have discarded Muamalaat. In their transactional dealings they are not concerned with the Deen, whether their acts are lawful or not. They are indifferent to the question of halaal and haram regarding their earning and dealings. Then there are those who maintain their Muamalaat on a healthy footing, but are unconcerned with the reformation of their moral character. Those who are concerned about their Akhlaaq are exceptionally few. In fact, there are even such people who spend considerable time to reform others while others are inconvenienced by their behaviour and attitude. They remain unaware of the difficulty they are causing others by their actions and behaviour. They are completely uncaring about their own detestable condition. There are numerous such persons who will not venture to offer Salaam to a poor Muslim along the road. On the contrary, they wait in expectation of the Salaam to be initiated by the poor.

Some people along with Aqaa’id, A’maal, Muamalaat are concerned about the reformation of Akhlaaq, hence they adopt ways and measures for the treatment of their morals. But they have discarded Husn-e-Muashrat. In fact, they have excised it from the Deen. They assert that there is no relationship between the Shariah and social conduct with people. They, therefor, behave as they please, thinking that the Shariah has no say in such matters. Many people are pious with good qualities such as humility but in Muasharat they are lacking. They are not concerned whether they annoy or inconvenience others by their behaviour. In most insignificant things they bring about difficulty and inconvenience others. Their attention is totally diverted from little things which cause difficulty to others while in the Hadith there are numerous incidents narrated which show that (Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wasallam) cared for the little things just as much as he cared for important matters.”

We should all take heed from the above advice.

Assalamo Alaikum

Courtesy: Rahil.

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