1)   Do You Keep People Happy?

Keeping people happy is one of the signs of God's presence in your heart because spreading and ensuring happiness around you is the a human-nature-based instinct which is concretely linked with Universal principles of God.

Making people laugh for a short span of time is not to be considered as keeping them happy altogether because laughter is just a sub-set of happiness. You might make person giggle or feel good with by a joke, a sitcom, a nice instant comment but this feeling is for a very short span of time but keeping people happy for long terms is your real achievement because it indicates a permanent demonstration of your character trait for possessing high degree of care and love for others. (more articles on happiness and stress management can be read at www. DailyTenMinutes dot com)

  

Below are some good assessment points for you in terms of people’s behaviour towards you: 

 1-    Do people, directly or indirectly, appreciate you for your kind words and deeds quite often?

2-   Do people keep in touch with you by sending text, emails, phone calls etc?

3-   Do people trust in you and discuss their personal problems with you to seek advice?

4-   Do people share their secrets because they consider you as a deep sea who would keep the secret?

5-   Do people consider you as: a.  Soft-heart person? b.  An empathic Listener? c.    A helping hand? d.  A conflict solver?

6-   Do people learn new moral, social, financial or ethical lessons when they meet you? Do they consider you as a source of inspiration and positivity?

 

2)10 Tips to fight depression

 

During the phase of depression sometimes we become pessimist and our negative thoughts make it hard to attain back the peaceful state. As we are already depressed due to tough circumstances, these negative thoughts add fuel to fire and steal our peace of mind making it really hard to concentrate even on routine things. So what should be done to fight the depression and negativity? Below are the tips to be considered:

1-    Try not to think about problems and rough circumstances again and again; instead focus on the solution. Think what needs to be done to fix the issues.
2-   Change your environment. Take a break from your routine life and visit some relative or explore some new city/country.
3-   Stay away from negative people. Remember, if someone is negative, he/she is spreading negative germs. Keep yourself germ-free.

4-   Read news paper or a good book on daily basis. Article written by Junaid.Tahir
5-   Go to market and buy yourself something you like. Feel good about it.
6-   Surround yourself amongst happy people. Spend quality time with joyful and colorful friends Article written by Junaid.Tahir
7-   Adopt some good hobby and spend time on it. (gardening, blogging, book reading)
8-   Visit Orphan house and spend time with children. Help them financially if possible. Give gifts. This act gives real inner happiness.
9-   Think about the positive events of your life. About your childhood, education, fun trip, a friend's wedding etc.
10- Go to Mosque/church and spend time in prayers to get peace of mind.

 

3)How to be strong in hard moments

 

When I was studying in my 12 grade, my elder sister, a teacher by profession, sent me a post card having these lines. "Don't be afraid of problems. Meet them, greet them, treat them and you will surely defeat them" So I dedicate this article to my sister for teaching a wonderful lesson of life; the life which is tougher than a teacher. Because the teacher teaches first and then takes the test whereas life puts us in test and then teach a lesson. These lessons come in different tastes (mostly bitter J) because of the unavoidable circumstances such as Financial Issues, Marital issues, Clash due to difference of opinion, Accidents and Mistakes done by us. In such situations following points can be considered in order to cope up:

 

1-    Confess that you have a situation which you need to face in order to fix. Yes, this is very important factor. I know a lot of people, trying to convince themselves that nothing is wrong, though stress keeps building at the back of their heads. Consequently,
the stress explodes all of a sudden resulting in extreme outcomes. So the foremost thing is to tell yourself that you have to address the issue, instead of ignoring it.  
2-   Consider if the problem is something you should be really bothering about? Ask yourself whether it is not going to impact you if not addressed? If not, simply disregard it and be happy. However, if your brain think about the problem again and again then consider point-1 J
3-   Chose your attitude… Consider the wow approach. To learn about it please follow the link
4-   Consider if there are other people having same problem. If yes, check what they are doing to handle the situation. Search on internet, visit online answering services such as yahoo or wikihow.
5-   Consider if you can breakdown the problem in smaller problems and fix each problem one by one. If you would like to develop analytical skills please read
6-   Remember, if we cannot laugh again and again on the same joke, you shouldn't be worrying on the same issue again and again. Control your thoughts. You might want to read more on this at
7-   Don't allow people to make your life miserable. No one is in-charge of your happiness except you so ignore negative comments and suggestions. Please read my article http://paradigmwisdom.blogspot.com/2012/01/reasons-for-negative-thoughts-stress.html

Conclusion: A wise man is the one who learns from other's mistake. If you really want to be strong, you need to develop strong observation skills. You need to closely study people on how they behave at stressful situations. So keep observing and keep learning new horizons of inner power at the cost of others' experiences J.

Finally, don't give up. The successful and optimist people find solutions in nearly all kind of circumstances. So it's your choice either to be successful or to be a loser!

 

Courtesy: Junaid Tahir

  Compiled, edited and adapted by Khalid Latif

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